Once before I considered the concept of the black sexual agenda. Everyone always seems to have an agenda so why not black people concerning sex. (For those who don't already know, I am black.)
It's my completely unscientific feeling that there really isn't one. I mean, of course black people have sex. Shit, we'd be in more trouble than normal if we didn't. But my concern comes from 45 years of non-conversations that I haven't experienced with members of my own race. I don't see anyone talking about this either in public or in private. (Maybe I'm just hanging out with repressed people...)
Anyway, that's not where I was going with this post.
The reason I brought it up was because here lately I've begun to wonder if there is an a major problem in relationships between black men and black women.
It seems as though black women are choosing white, Latino or Asian men at a much higher rate than ever in history. And the same is true for black men. The census bureau reports that black-white marriages increased from 65,000 in 1970 to 422,000 in 2005.
Now don't get me wrong, I couldn't care less who you decide to marry or co-habit with or whatever. One of the women I am in love with is white. The other is black They are both the lights of my life and I am lucky to have them.(I'll have to post more on this at another time, there is actually a serious disparity there too...).
What I see happening is the melting pot effect slowly reaching towards its ultimate expression. I have a writer friend who is convinced that at some point in the future there will only be one race and everyone will be light brown. I don't know, but based on the numbers I can see how he would forecast that.
For the purposes of this blog, my question is - are black men finding white women easier to love and hold onto? Are black women finding white men more approachable and family oriented?
The old dynamic (circa 1970) was that black men had a white woman on their arm as a status symbol. A way to show that they were better than the other 'brothers' in the hood. I can say this with 100% assurance because its how my father ended up with the woman he married after he left my mother. And if you need more anecdotal evidence, his best friend and three others on the force did exactly the same thing. Now I now this isn't scientific by any stretch, but I never claimed to be a scientist. This is just what I experienced.
Another reason that black men have traditionally gone to white women is the supposed lack of inhibition (and/or lack morality, but that one is bullshit as far as I am concerned humans have morality or not, it doesn't have shit to do with their race). White women are reputed more likely to suck your nuts through your cock than any black woman that you will ever meet. At least that's how the theory goes.
Black women would feed you, but a white woman would make you feel like a man.
On the flip side of the coin black women found white men to be more career or goal oriented. Usually college educated (white men outnumber black men in college by a factor of about 5 to 1 - in 2008 the DOE records show 64% of male students enrolled in degree granting institutions were white and only 13% were black.) And with backgrounds that might not include things like gangs, shitty credit or prison time, a white man could look more attractive.
Remember, all of this is just a theory of mine, backed by data, but still just a theory.
To take this back into the realm of sexuality lets consider pornography since its pretty prevalent in so much of life. Let me say that I know porn is not the best indicator of how women act in real life. No woman, black or otherwise, wants to be routinely gang raped by a room full of horny men. BUT, the porn industry itself (the money making end of it) is another one of those area's where we trail other races.
I know that there is plenty of black porn being produced, but my research has shown that the majority of it (75%) is poorly shot and poorly lit. There's no attempt at basic dialog, structure or plot. It's more like two (or more) animals rutting in heat. For the most part black porn seems to be what happens after the music video shoot is over. It's really no big surprise that so many couples starting out have the wrong impression of just what sex is supposed to look and feel like. If porn is their first visual of sex between two people of course they get it wrong. I know I did.
Also, I can't find a single instance of a porn production company run by a black female. I hope to God that I'm wrong about that and my internet skills need some sharpening, but I don't think so. So if no one is producing 'quality' porn for and by black people, who can argue the point that we appear to be more animal natured than any other race? People believe what they see. So the next time you hear a black woman complaining that her new man expected her to take it up the ass dry while tied to the wall, you know where its coming from...
Anyway, lets recap.
1. There doesn't seem to be a black sexual agenda.
2. Black women and White men are getting together just like Black men and White women.
3. It's quite likely that we will all be brown at some point in the future if the aliens or zombies don't get us first.
4. Black and white women like educated men.
5. Black women aren't as freaky in bed as white women (unless you believe what you see in porn).
6. It's getting late and I need to get some sleep.
Did I miss anything?
Nah, I didn't think so.
Peace
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