Why do so many people think liking sex is bad?

I have two female friends who love sex. They fuck at the drop of a hat and really enjoy it.

And me? Fuck, I've jacked off twice since I started writing this post (just kidding...).

I also know several people who, while not being totally sexless, have really low sex drives. They are aware of it and don't really care.

When I compare the types of personalities between the two women who like sex and the ones who don't I see some interesting contrasts. The girls who like sex are really outgoing and friendly. They smile easily and enjoy social settings.

They are also way more open to new experiences. If you mention something like a threesome or porn to them they nod and talk about it without reservations or squeamishness.

With the people I know who aren't that into sex their response to social settings is a bit different. They are more reserved and don't respond to new experiences the same way. In point of fact I've seen then shut down when the conversation turns even slightly raunchy. One of these people is a big strong guy. 6' 5" with a huge infectious laugh. The kind you would think has women chasing him down the street. He likes being the center of attention right until the conversation turns to more serious topics and then he completely shuts down.

His wife tells me that the two of them haven't had sex in nearly two years...

When I consider myself and the two women I mentioned earlier I sometimes feel like some kind of freak because I like sex so much. One of the women is in her 30's. She likes her sex rough and raw. She told me that she wonders if something is wrong with her because of that.

I don't like to hear that kind of thing though. There isn't shit wrong with her because she likes sex. She's perfect the way she is. Smokin' hot body and a great spirit to match. What's wrong with that?

What could be wrong with a person liking what they like so long as they aren't hurting themselves or anyone else?

See, I chalk that up to society and social conditioning. For a healthy, happy non-married woman to think something is wrong with her because she has a sex drive is nothing more than programming. Bad programming at that.

For years I've felt bad about wanting to be in a poly relationship and it was all due to social mores. Stuff that I learned as a kid that really didn't have shit to do with who I was (am). It's difficult to get that stuff out of your head.

It's taken me 25 years to admit to myself that I want more from my relationships. I always felt it was wrong to ask for more, but like my wife says, a closed mouth don't get fed.

Is liking sex bad? Fuck no. It's natural. Built into us by the universe, or God, or the Goddess or whatever you believe. We all have differing desires and levels of desire and that's what makes soup.