Course corrections...

You've spent a long time with someone special.

You share many things - physically, historically and emotionally. Despite everything that you share and the closeness you may feel, there comes a time when you sit down with yourself to evaluate where you are in the world. It has nothing to do with the other person. Being fully realistic about your own destiny is a natural, necessary thing.

Usually when we think about change in our bodies or mind we are only dealing with minor course corrections. Lose a little weight, change our spending habits, or go with a new brand of soap, that sort of thing. What I’m talking about is deeper though.

When you start thinking about the ultimate trip that you have to take on your own it puts things into a new perspective. You question things like the choices that you’ve made and where they’ve lead you. You start to think about whether or not you are happy and if the person you spent your life with is happy with you.

These thoughts contain the substance that can affect your relationship and you owe it to yourself to be brutally honest about where you stand.

Whichever way your heart feels you have to acknowledge the feeling, even if you don’t understand it. Remember nothing in your heart happens in a vacuum. If you are feeling something there is a reason for it, regardless of whether you understand why. If you are a person of good conscience your heart will not lie to you. It might say something that you don’t like, or something that scares the shit out of you, but it won’t lie.

Your job is to figure out if what you are feeling is real. Your heart won’t lie to you, but the explanation for what you are feeling is often elusive. The average person doesn’t understand everything they do. Hell, if 50% of your actions past and present make sense to you then you are a majorly smart individual. Most of us drift through only making decisions when shit jumps up and bites the hell out of us.

Or we get really sick and close to death.

I guess all I'm saying is don't take these thoughts lightly. You can ignore your heart and feelings for just so long and then the decision is usually made for you.

Trust me when I say that you always want to be the one in charge...